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Narrator: |
After 37 years of living as a male, Don takes the first step in the transition process. He dresses as a woman in public, and changes his name to Ashley. |
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Ashley: |
Transitioning process was actually quite terrifying. If someone could imagine going into the other sex bathroom, in the other sex clothing for the first time, it seems like everyone is looking at you. Also they are perhaps, could be killed or beaten, as to happen to a lot of transsexual people. You know, I’ve been to war and it wasn’t that terrifying. |
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Medical Director: |
The society is not tolerant of men who are dressed like woman, which is how a lot of trans-women are perceived. The society is not tolerant of it, and furthermore we make it the bases of a lot of really bad and painful comedy. |
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Until this point, Ashley and Tony had lived parallel lives. Then, in 2003, at a transgender support group, they meet. |
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Ashley: |
Tony came into my life and we just seem to have healed off. We really click together. And it’s hard for me to say how amazing that really is. |
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Narrator: |
With Ashley by his side, Tony began the second step in his transition, hormone therapy. |
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Tony: |
Ashley actually gave me my first injection of testosterone; I believe it was January 6 of 04. |
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Narrator: |
The third stage will reshape their life forever, full sex change surgery, together, as a married couple. |
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Tony: |
Well the first thing they did is they took out all the female reproductive organs. First they have to form the penis. With mine, it was constructed from the skin on the side of my right side. And it’s a normal male size penis, you can still orgasm, you can still have that sexual pleasure. I would like to eventually get the erectile device. The scrotum is already built, but I haven’t put the implant for it. So those were the two main surgeries that I’m wanting. |
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Ashley: |
The genital reassignment surgery is… what they do is they use the skin from the outside of the penis as the new vaginal lining, and then they invert what used to be the penis and make a new vaginal wall. And the testacies, they cut that away and just basically make new labia. At first it felt like I have a penis tied in a knot. You know, it was just a really odd feeling, but you know, at the same time it works. |
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Narrator: |
While Ashley had her breasts augmented, Tony had his removed.
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Tony: |
They actually will take the nipples and cut them down to male’s size nipples, cos’ generally a male nipples are a lot smaller than a female’s. |
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Narrator: |
Ashley has her brow bone and chin restructured to give her a more feminine look. |
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Ashley: |
For me it was part of feeling that I was in the correct body and that I could look into the mirror and see the person that I felt inside. |
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Narrator: |
The transition from man to woman is ongoing for Ashley. Hair removal is a constant reminder of her old life. |
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Ashley: |
A woman would have to ask herself, you know how comfortable she would be walking around with beard. And you know, I just don’t want to be the bearded lady, so I think it’s quite worth it for me. |
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Psychologist: |
In the past, therapy tried to change the psyche to suit the body. It was fabulously unsuccessful. People are tormented by years of useless therapy. Now we realize the psyche stays, the body can be changed. |
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